An African wedding is like a cultural buffet of traditions, rituals and customs. Depending upon which area of the continent you reside, the more customized the wedding ritual. Benin is no different from the other countries in Africa; their traditions are specific to which they are as a people. Benin is made up of many different tribes, therefore bringing a mixture of traditional marriage practices. Beninese cultures practice monogamous as well as polygamous weddings.
Arranged marriages are the most utilized traditional practices the Beninese people perform. The marriage is arranged at birth of a young woman as to whom she will be betrothed. Upon puberty for the girl and maturation for the boy, his family would begin to send gifts to her family. Traditionally, the groom would work for the future in laws, and give them yams as a form of a dowry. In more recent families, money has been provided as a dowry. The fathers of both participants decide upon the day of the “betrothal ceremony”. On the ceremonial day, the traditional customary gifts would include palm wine, kola nuts and coconuts will be given to the bride’s family by the groom.
The wedding day ceremony consists of the bride traveling to the grooms home and having her hands washed in money and cowrie shells to symbolize fertility and acceptance by her husband’s family. After a few days have passed, the bride’s family is allowed to visit their daughter in her new home.
